My text book defines: Emotional Intelligence- as having the ability to understand emotions, managing emotions to serve goals, empathizing with others and effectively handling relationships with others.
That may be a lot to process for some people or hard to apply to every day situations without context.
The link below simplifies an approach that can help with controlling your impulse to say whatever comes to your mind. Which will aid you in becoming more emotionally intelligent.
Summed up it consists of three basic questions.
- Does this need to be said?
- Does this need to be said by me?
- Does this need to be said by me right now?
Self-awareness is the foundation for emotional intelligence. Basically that means to understand how you will come off to other people you must first understand your own emotions, why you feel the way you do and how is that all affecting how you are as a person.
Without getting to spiritual I'd like to point out that I am a Gemini and I struggle with this really hard. I fall to the victim of Emotional Hijacking, that means I let my emotions control my behavior without thinking and I react quickly and usually unjustly.
Example time:
When I cannot get a hold of my Boyfriend.What happens:
I call him a Bunch of times, sometimes they go straight to voicemail and I panic. I assume the worst. That he is in a ditch on the side of the road and he is unconscious. In reality after I've had time to calm down, I know he is asleep and his phone is dead, or he is at work after hours because his boss made him stay late, again, and his reception is bad.In summary I need to work on my Emotional Intelligence. If I can get control of why I feel the way I feel in the moment, I'll be seen as a better manager, less crazy, and I wont jump to conclusions or say mean things when he doesn't respond.
Honestly it is something we all need to work on.
So here's that link, and thanks for reading :]
https://www.inc.com/justin-bariso/3-simple-questions-to-improve-your-emotional-intelligence.htmlalso the link for the image for legal purposes...
https://www.bing.com/search?q=emotional%20inteligence%20picture&form=SWAUA2
I can relate to your missed call issues. Sometimes my wife calls me and I can't answer at the moment. Then, when I call back, she doesn't answer and I assume the worst. It is very hard to get out of our own heads!
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